Who you are...

I don't have the longest hair, the clearest smoothest skin, the longest legs, but none of that matters because I love me!
Sure people can say what they want, can call me what ever they feel but what really matter is who and what I see when I look
In the mirror. Have you ever heard that saying "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder", when I look at me I see a beautiful, intelligient, strong woman, a woman that my daughter can look up too. Too many times have we men and women listened to what other people had to say about the way we look...we listen to the
Standard set by society the way women "should" look, the way men "should" look and act. And we try to change the way WE are! to appreciate who you are you have to LOVE yourself. As a black woman I aint even going to lie
I love the sway of my hips, the roots of my hair, the complexion of
My skin, the curves of my body...and so does my man... But no matter what nationality you are love yourself for who you
Are and see how other people
View you, confidence is
Contagious...when you love yourself its easier for you to love others and for others to love you...
~Paschanita N. Menchan~

Self-Esteem/Respect

Just as this little kitten sees itself as a majestic lion, you should see yourself more than what people see/think of you.

Although a flower needs sunlight and water to grow, the flower can not water its self or give itself the necessary sunlight. The flower needs help, needs someone to water it, needs someone to put it in the sun so it may flourish. Just like the flower people need help to grow too.



A lot of people always tend to blame their self esteem issues on someone or something else, "I was abused as a child", "evey man/woman I have ever been with had cheated, and made me feel as if I was not good enough"...when in reality that shouldn't affect how YOU feel about YOU! Yes these type of things may make you feel horrible at the moment but you have to know that you are bigger and better than your circumstances and they work to make you stronger and wiser! You have to know what type of person you are, your strengths, and your weaknesses. No one else should be able to tell you what you are, because you know. I know things may look/get so bad that you can not help but feel helpless, unworthy, alone. But you have to be able to get up, look in the mirror and say if I don't have anybody I have God and the person in the mirror. You have to be able to lift your self up and respect yourself! Now like the flower you are going to need help to grow and stay in your self-esteem/respect. The way to do this is surround yourself with people that are going to continually push you and motivate you, this way you can stay in that positivity and push yourself harder, if u surround yourself with negativity...people that bash and criticize everything you do then yes you start to feel. Ad about yourself and don't see any good in you what so ever. So forget them surround yourself with happiness, love, and positivity and you will see a change for the better.



DONT LET YOUR PAST DICTATE YOUR FUTURE



LOVE YOURSELF NO MATTER WHAT

~Paschanita N. Menchan~

L.O.V.E.

...the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering,gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such thereis no law. Gal 5:22

I was reading the following passage this morning and A LOT of thoughts came to my head

It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80s arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00.I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would be able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided since I was not busy with another patient, I wouldevaluate his wound. On examining it I saw it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors and got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor'sappointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.I inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for awhile! As she is a victim of Alzheimer's disease.As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. Hereplied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognizedhim in five years now.I was surprised and asked him, 'And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?' He smiled as he patted my hand and said, 'She doesn't know me but Istill know who she is.' I had to hold back tears as he left.

MY THOUGHTS

That is the kind of love I want in my life. True love is neither physical nor romantic.True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.Peace is seeing a sunset and knowing who to thank. The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have. Life isn't about how to survive the storm but how to dance in the rain. The road to success is not straight. There is a curve called Failure, a loop called Confusion, speed bumps called Friends, red lights called Enemies, caution lights called Family. You will have flats called Jobs..But, if you have a spare called Determination, an engine calledPerseverance, insurance called Faith, a driver called Almighty God, you will make it to a place called Success...rember that and you will go far

~Paschanita N. Menchan~

Friends

Just because someone calls you their friend does not mean they are. It so easy to think that some is truly your friend. I am so quick to befriend anyone that speaks to me, automatically the best about that person, trusting them, failing to realize that trust isn't just given, its earned. You just can't let someone flip through the pages of the book called your life, they have to start at the first page and get to the very end, if they truly want to be a friend. I can really count on one hand how many "friends" I have, I used to think I had tons til I realized they were there just to benefit their own needs, and I was just a step to get there...people have to learn to pick there friends carefully, me personally, I need a friend that is loyal, honest, fun, an uplifter...etc, someone to help me grow not bash me down...I need to work on myself too to be able to be a better friend to people that I already call friend...so what are you doing to be a friend.

*Panamama*

Distance

What do you do when you are miles and miles away from the person who holds your heart?
Do you sit in wallow in self-pity, cry, seek comfort in someone else?
Do you be strong, hold your head high, and keep going?
I honestly think its a mixture of all of these things, I mean you have to hold your head high
and be strong and keep going, but at the same time, it is okay to cry a little
relieve yourself of all the bad feelings...I know one thing for sure DO NOT seek comfort
in someone else. What could you possibly gain from that? Sure its nice to be able
to have someone to talk to /comfort/cuddle with when times get hard but is it worth
losing the person you really care about over something so juvenile? It's NEVER easy
being away from the person you care/love but all you can do is keep faith, and keep
all the excess negativity out of your head...is he/she cheating, will he/she find someone else
what if they wont want me after this. DUH there is a reason they were with you in the
first place. People say long distance relationships don't work...well when your married and
have made a true commitment to somebody IT WILL AND CAN WORK...it just takes extra
commitment and dedication!!! but it can be done...just don't give up, hold them down
like they are sure to be holding you down....

*Panamama*
Listening to "Acceptance"- Deep DuVal ft. Trinity (www.rebelmusick.com)

THINK...

If people would just THINK before they acted. THINK before they said something that hurt the one they truly love or care about, or just simply have any type of feelings for what so ever. THINK before they destroyed something they may never possibly ever have a chance of getting a hold of again. Why is it so hard to just THINK before you do something that can change your life FOREVER? Is it fear, stupidity, not thinking, hatered or something else? Sometimes we do things based soley on emotions. Saying that one thing that we know is going to set off that other person, or reacting in a way that may damage not only your future but someone else's. It's a hard thing for A LOT of people to grasp, that you have to THINK before you speak or act. We become so caught up in our emotions, the way we see things, that we dont THINK * AT THAT MOMENT* what the consequences may be. As hard as it may seem when you feel that anger rising the best thing to do is leave, walk away, go to a quiet place and then come back and talk to see if a resoulution can be reached (if at all possible)...these are simply solutions to how issues can be resolved simply by THINKING...*if only it was really that easy*...I know me, and i know how quick tempered I can become and the "right" words to say to someone that I feel has wronged me...and as f'd up as that may sound, its the truth , and sometimes that's what it takes to recognize when you are doing wrong so you can become a solution to a problem instead of being the problem...so the solution for myself is to THINK before everythin) I do/say because words hurt, and before EVERYTHING changes I (and im sure some of you need to sit back...breath...and......THINK...

*Panamam09*
~LISTENIN TO "MAD" -NEYO

Falling...OUT

Have you ever feel out of love with something. I mean something you were passionate about, like writing, singing, dancing. Have you ever feel out of love with someone? Like a girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife. Why do you think its so easy to love something/someone yet so hard to admit that you are no longer feeling the same way? Does it make you feel like you failed or that you didn't get the outcome you expected. For instance say you love dancing,I mean you live, breath, eat, sleep dancing, but you no longer wish to do it, it doesn't reach your soul like it used to and you want to move on to something new. Is it because you were getting nowhere, where you wanted to be, no one noticed you, or maybe you just want to do it for fun. What makes people fall out of love with things they once cared about? What do you think?

*Panamama*

Why?

Why do people always want what they can't have? Whether it be a man, woman, fame, or fortune? If you don't have it to begin with then most likely it isn't and will never be yours. I mean the fame and fortune it could happen if you work hard enough and try hard enough you could achieve that. But I notice a lot of women (men too) "fall" for someone that is already taken, or just off limits. I used to be like that too :) growing up I used to like the guys that were in a relationship knowing that it wasn't gonna happen. Maybe it was just always nice to try :) yes I know it was grimy but I was young and just didn't care. One thing I did learn is that if you get a man by making him cheat on his woman then he most likely will do the same thing to you. But why do people try to go after other people's "other half" its ridiculous and a HUGE waste of time especially if they are happy. I just sit back relax and watch it happen...watch the other person "swoon" over what they can't have :) and see how long it will take for them to realize its a no go..so why do you think people do this?

*Panamama*

Laundry

So while in the mist of doing laundry I am laying in bed and thinking. There is a lot of "laundry" in my life. There are issues in my life that can be washed and become "clean" so to speak. There have been people that have caused me pain, physically and emotionally. People that talk ish behind my back and smile in my face. I know its time to let it go, overcome it and move on, but I'm not going to lie to myself and make it seem like its an easy thing to do. I'm sure you all understand where I am coming from, when someone hurts you its not that easy to just be like "Its cool" and go back to the way things were. You may say "its alright" but deep inside you know its not and every time you see or talk to that person what they did is going to come rushing back like a flood. Why is it so hard for people to let things go and move on? Is it a fear of being hurt again? Whatever it may be sooner or later you have to take it to the cleaners and get it washed clean...
*Panamama*
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